About this episode . . .
Today we’re talking about marital aids, often known as sex toys. Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys?
When we think of sex toys, the vibrator is what usually comes to mind. Most of our conversations focuses on vibrators, but there are also things like nipple clamps, penis rings, dildos, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and more.
The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys.
- Why do so many couples use sex toys in the marriage bed. What do they think it adds?
- There are good reasons to use sex toys, and there are good reasons to avoid them. So how can a Christian couple decide whether sex toys are acceptable for them to use? What are the questions we should be asking ourselves?
- If we decide to use them, is there anything we should be on the lookout for to be sure we are still using them in a way that is consistent with God’s plan for our sexual intimacy?
Listen to the episode . . .
From the Bible . . .
What does God have to say about sex toys?
The Bible doesn’t say anything about sex toys. There is no “Thou shalt not use a vibrator,” nor is there a toy mentioned in the Song of Solomon. There is no specific instruction that we are to use, or not use, sex toys. A Christian couple should approach this issue prayerfully, in consideration of Biblical principles and with the goal of intimacy.
Resources . . .
Why I Don’t Use Sex Toys – Hot, Holy & Humorous
How Do I Eliminate Marital Aids and Orgasm Naturally? – Bonny’s OysterBed7
What If the Batteries Died? A Sex Toy Story – Bonny’s OysterBed7
3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy – The Forgiven Wife
Batteries Included: Sex Toy Use? – Intimacy in Marriage
Can Christians Use Sex Toys? – To Love, Honor & Vacuum
I like the use of the term “marital aid”! I think my husband and I have experienced most of the situations described here. We have been using sex toys to enhance our sex life most of our marriage. There was a time when I also used then solo, but that was wrong for me to do and I repented of that years ago. Overall, we have found sex toys to be something we both enjoy, but it has always been by mutual consent and never pressure from one or the other of us.
We’ve been married 38 years and just turned 60 this year. Our sex life has been fulfilling, with the usual ups and downs of kids, work, busyness, etc. (We both have jobs outside the home.) When we became empty nesters a few years ago, things got really good! However, the last year or so, physical changes with hormones, etc., have made us depend more on marital aids to achieve orgasm-both of us. We still enjoy intimacy and sometimes one of us doesn’t achieve the big “O”, but we do have the emotional and spiritual bonding that I believe God designed for sex. Our encounters are less frequent due to less energy but each one is special. I don’t think we would be able to have the full experience without the aids. Our bodies ( hands, etc.) just don’t work like they used to! Thanks for all your information. No one used to put this stuff out there and we appreciate it greatly!