We answer listener questions about the struggle of having sexual intimacy after miscarriage, grieving the long lack of intimacy, whether a wife should self-pleasure after her husband’s betrayal shut down sex, and how to maintain sexual intimacy with adult kids living at home.
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From the Bible
The Message Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 7:3–6: Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.
Resources
- The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker
- Episode 255: When Same-Sex Arousal Enters Marriage, with Vicki Tiede
- Better Help Therapy Network
- Studying the Psalms: Lament — InspiritEncourage
- Episode 116: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (1/2) – HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
- Episode 117: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (2/2) – HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
- Episode 212: What About Masturbation? – Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
- The Sarah Society
- Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives
- What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife
- Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home – Hot, Holy & Humorous
- The Joy of Earbuds | The Forgiven Wife
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