The term “emotional labor” has come to mean the emotional cost of outwardly acting with composure when inwardly we are feeling something different. Rose Hackman, an expert on emotional labor describes is at the editing work of emotions that someone would do in order to have an effect on the emotions of someone else. Today, we want to talk about emotional labor and how it can negatively affect sexual interest.

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From the Bible

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Galatians 6:2–5

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. Ephesians 4:9

A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
Proverbs 31:10–18

Resources

• What Is Emotional Labor in Relationships? (brides.com) (mentioned by J)
• 5 Words Women Need to Learn to Say – CalmHealthySexy
• How to Manage Your Family’s Schedule (to Reduce Stress!) – CalmHealthySexy
• The Working Mother’s Guilt Guide
• Helping Your Wife Balance Motherhood and Sexual Intimacy – Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)
• Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS Voices
• Women are earning more, but they’re still doing more housework and caregiving : NPR
• Does Choreplay Work? – Knowing Her Sexually
• Why a Husband Helping Around the House Makes a Wife More Open to Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com)
• Episode 5: Sex Scheduling
• Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101
• Calm. Healthy. Happy. – 17 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Feel Great, and C – CalmHealthySexy ($5 book)

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