Healing after discovering porn

About this episode

This episode concludes our “Conversation about Porn” 3-part series.  The four of us return as a group around the virtual kitchen table to help give some perspective and thoughts on moving forward in a marriage after pornography use is discovered.

(Just a quick aside, we are aware that pornography isn’t just a problem husbands have.  There are also wives battling the urge to consume porn or read erotica.  In a future episode, we will tackle that.  But, for today, we are focusing on a marriage where the husband has been viewing porn.)

  1.  How can a wife capture ruminating thoughts to soothe her pain?
  2.  How can a wife find forgiveness and rebuild trust?
  3.  When should they resume sexual intimacy?
  4.  What we say to men who believe that a sexless marriage attributed to their temptation.

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From the Bible

1 Corinthians 7:5 – Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Resources

How Long Will It Take Her To Heal? – Covenant Eyes

When Lust Trains Your Soul – Covenant Eyes

The Three Levels of Sexual Addiction – The New Hope Recovery Center

Finding Courage to Face the Pain of Pornography – Bonny’s OysterBed7

First Steps in Battling Pornography – Bonny’s OysterBed7

Waging War – Bonny’s OysterBed7

Porn Plagued Us Until This Happened – Bonny’s OysterBed7

Why Does He Watch Porn? – Bonny’s OysterBed7

Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? – The Forgiven Wife

If Your Husband Uses Pornography – The Forgiven Wife

Healing after discovering porn